Stop waiting for love to find you – go out and find it for yourself

You shouldn’t listen to people who keep telling you “Stay single until you meet a guy like that” or “Never settle for a partner who can’t love you like that.”

This is terrible advice and you should never follow it.

The thing about dating in this modern age is that you are always taught to have a lot of boundaries. You are always encouraged to follow very specific rules. You are told to stop going out and dating people because you shouldn’t settle with the wrong people anyway. You have been told that you should let go of people for whom you feel you are only compromising.

And yes, it’s true when they say that you should never settle for someone you don’t really want to be with. However, you shouldn’t be so deluded into thinking that “he” is out there and is just going to fall into your lap any day. Love definitely doesn’t work like that. And that’s definitely how you’ll find happiness in love with someone.

Of course, there is some beauty behind the concept of saving yourself for the person you know you’re going to spend the rest of your life with. There’s something very romantic about just waiting and being patient until the one you’re meant to be with comes along and sweeps you off your feet. But this is also an absurd way to find love in your life. It is very constraining, limiting and binding.

Unless you actually go around different people and go on dates with them, how can you expect to find the right person for you? How can you expect to know about love unless you experience it yourself and learn from your mistakes? How can you expect to know what you’re looking for in love unless you go out and figure out what you don’t like in relationships?

There is no possible way for you to figure out what you want from relationships unless you go out and experience real relationships for yourself. You have to understand how you will work in a relationship and this requires practical experience. Sometimes, you have to walk, stumble, and fall several times before you can really get a handle on things.

A relationship isn’t something you just fall into and expect to know how to do everything right right away. You won’t always know what to do. In fact, a lot of times, you always have to figure things out as you go along. It is always a learning process. And how can you learn how to maintain relationships if you’re going to be “single” until you meet the one? How do you know what “the one” will look like unless you know what all the wrong ones look like?

Never be afraid to fail in a relationship. Failure is not something that can paralyze you and keep you down. Just because you’re afraid of failing in a relationship doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be in a relationship at all. You should not be afraid of making mistakes as all of these can be taken as learning experiences. You should not be afraid of a relationship going sour because these hold valuable lessons that you can use for yourself in any future relationships.

Love is not a perfect feeling. And it doesn’t even require perfection from you. The imperfection of love is what makes it so beautiful. The imperfection of love is what makes it feel more real.

Falling in love doesn’t mean you’re going to have a life of eternal happiness that’s a spontaneous walk in the park. Even in a true loving relationship, it is filled with a lot of potholes, broken paths, and broken hearts. Your path will not always be easy. But it is still important that you learn the value of keeping fighting. It is still important that you understand the value of patience, perseverance, and resilience amidst adversity.

And these are all things you can learn if you have the courage to go out and date. You have to stop waiting for love to fall into your lap. You have to go out and get it for yourself. You have to make sure that when the time comes for you to fall in love, you are ready to do so.