How to Try It, 48 Tips, Myths and the Best Strap on Sex Positions

If you’re feeling adventurous in the bedroom, you might want to try pegging. Here’s everything you need to know to strap-in for strap-on sex tonight!

Sometimes women also want to take revenge from their men for their behavior towards them. And sometimes, men want to do to them what they do to their girlfriends. Do you know what we mean? In short, some straight couples love pegging!

But before you start going into deep *punishment*, you need to learn what you’re doing *again and again*!*.

In this feature, we’ll tell you everything you need to know about role-reversed sex acts, debunk some myths and misconceptions, and teach you safe and super fun ways to bring pegging into the bedroom.

What is pegging?

If you’ve never heard of this term before, you might be scratching your head trying to figure out what it means. Pegging is a form of anal sex where a woman anally penetrates her male partner with a strap-on dildo.

Pegging FAQs Answered

Asking a lover to bend over may seem like a shock at first, especially if you’re a traditional type of couple. However, those who are sexually curious enough to have the courage to try can guarantee its many exciting benefits!

You’re new to the world of pegging, so it’s normal to have questions. Here are the most common, and the answers you need:

1. Wait, isn’t this a form of BDSM?

Yes and no. While BDSM role-playing sometimes includes pegging in their routine, most straight couples do pegging without all the ropes, chains, leather, and painful pleasure.

Pegging during anal sex is simply a role reversal, and you can do pegging in a normal sexual setting.

It may also include elements of femdom or female supremacy where the woman takes a more dominant and active role during sex.

2. Isn’t pegging a form of gay sex?

Definitely not! As mentioned, pegging is defined specifically for heterosexual couples, hence the strap-on dildo. The main point of pegging is role reversal.

Just because it involves a man’s anus doesn’t mean it’s gay. After all, male gay couples wouldn’t need a strap-on for penetrative sex!

3. Are people interested in anal play considered bisexual or have homosexual tendencies?

First of all, bisexuals are people who are attracted to both their own and opposite sex so pegging has nothing to do with it. On the other hand, people who are interested in anal play are not automatically homosexual but are simply sexually explorers.

Anal play = gay is mostly attributed to the traditional male image which is quite outdated these days. Boys also have the right to enjoy anal pleasure.

Strap-on sex myth

1. Bigger is better

The age-old question, “Is bigger better?” There is something that most men wonder about. Of course, everyone has their own opinion about this. But in reality, bigger is not necessarily better.

Remember that the strap-on is going into her anus, which is not as flexible as the vagina. It is not designed to have a penis inserted inside it. Therefore, having a large strap-on may not be the most comfortable experience for her.

2. Tying it means you are jealous of the penis

If you’re not familiar with the concept, it’s the idea that women wish they had a penis so they could have the same kind of pleasure a man gets with a penis.

But just because a woman puts a strap-on around her hips to excite her man, doesn’t mean she actually wants a penis for herself. And it doesn’t mean that he’s transgender or has any other kind of conflict with his gender identity.

3. There is no happiness in the giver

Therefore, many people think that it is not as pleasurable for a woman as she cannot feel any sensation through the strap-on. But just because she can’t feel any physical sensations through the strap-on doesn’t mean she doesn’t get emotional pleasure from it.

4. All harnesses are created equal

There are so many varieties and types of strap-ons and dildos in the world. And they are not all created equal.

5. If you don’t get it right the first time, it’s not for you

Like anything in life, the first time isn’t always the best. Think about the moment you had sex for the first time as a virgin. You’re probably much better at it now than you were then.

The same is true for pegging. You will need some practice before you get it right and both of you start experiencing a lot of pleasure from it. So, don’t give up if you really want to enjoy the act of pegging.

What’s in it for the boy?

But newsflash, men also want to be sexually open-minded and exploratory. So, what are the exact benefits a man can expect from pegging?

1. Experiencing the submissive role

In heterosexual sex, the man mostly plays the dominant role and does all the activities. He is considered “the giver” because he clearly has the tools of the trade.

2. It feels good physically for him and for you

Pegging gives a man immense anal pleasure. The reason is simple: prostate. In men, the prostate gland is located a few inches inside their anal cavity.

When the strap-on is inserted, it stimulates the prostate gland and gives them intense pleasure. It can also bring them to orgasm through penetration alone.

3. It flips the script

Most couples become accustomed to their power dynamics when it comes to sex because that’s all they know. But have you ever wondered what it’s like to be a man and enter another person as yourself? And has he ever wondered what it’s like to enter?

Pegging flips the normal script of the power dynamics of your sexual relationship. You can become the clairvoyant, and he becomes the clairvoyant. This is a good way to understand each other’s sexual roles better.

4. It can be used during BDSM play

For example, you can tie him up or blindfold him before tying him to a peg. Using pegging in between all your other BDSM activities can be an extremely pleasurable experience for both of you.

What’s in it for the girl?

For women, the main driving force behind the increased interest is the role reversal aspect. That is, a more dominant and active role during sex that she ultimately gets to experience.

In terms of physical pleasure, there are special types of strap-on sex toys available for pegging couples.

Some of these provide mutual pleasure in the form of vibrators built into the harness so that she gets pleasure when she plows through her man. But for some people, seeing their partner feel pleasure is even more motivating.

How to use a strap-on

1. Come prepared with the right toys

First, you’ll want to make sure you have the right equipment. You’ll want to grab a dildo, strap-on harness, and lots of lube. Some alternative sex accessories such as vibrating cock rings, bullet vibrators, and wearable vaginal vibrators can also be used.

The strap-on you use can make or break your experience, both from a comfort and ease of use standpoint. Just remember that a man’s prostate doesn’t extend very far into his body, so you don’t need anything big to get the job done.

2. Wear the strap-on around before using

So, just wear it at home when you do your normal activities like household chores or watching a movie! It sounds weird, but the more comfortable you feel wearing it, the easier it will be to use it on your man.

3. Watch videos of people using strap-ons

If you’re trying pegging for the first time – or even if it’s not – it’s very helpful to watch some videos of people using strap-ons. You’ll probably find this in porn, but it’s also best to watch some amateur videos.

4. Use your hands to control it

You might think that wearing a strap-on to tie up your husband is a hands-free activity. But that doesn’t mean it will do what you want. Controlling a strap-on is not as easy as a real penis.

So, if something isn’t working properly, don’t be afraid to use your hands to adjust it. You have to make sure it goes in correctly and reaches the places it enjoys.

5. Try strap-friendly positions

You can try missionary, doggy style, standing, or lying on her stomach – these are all good positions to try in the beginning. Just find something that feels good and natural.

6. Stop worrying about how you look

It’s easy to be self-conscious about how you look when you have a strap-on around your hips. But try not to think about that and instead focus on the pleasure you are giving your man.

How to get started with the actual act of pegging

Now that you know how to use a strap-on in theory, let’s apply that knowledge in reality!

If you’re new to the world of pegging, wear your strap-on and pay attention. We’ll go over all the details you’ll ever need about strap-on sex.

1. Make sure he’s open to the idea

Obviously, if your man isn’t into the idea then you can’t pressure him. He has to be open to it. It’s even better if it was his idea in the first place.

2. Talk about it in detail

Like any new or extreme form of sexual activity, you and your partner should discuss it thoroughly first.

3. Give him a rest

The first thing you need to do to prepare her for pegging is to get her comfortable with anal play. During your next session, try a little tinkering with her anus, and test her limits of comfort, pleasure, and pain before actual pegging.

Some people want to have the external anal area played with but can’t handle anal penetration. So start slowly and carefully incorporate anal play during sex to prepare her for pegging.

4. Cleanliness is key

The thing about tying your man up is that it can get a little messy – for understandable reasons. If you want to get the most out of it, make sure it’s clean and ready to get back in there.

Even if your strap-on has received the highest praise from the FDA, you still need to practice proper hygiene when pegging. Always clean your persons and equipment after sex and put away your toys properly.

5. Smooth it out

In this situation, the more lubrication, the better. Don’t even try to have strap-on sex with your husband without this.

Women’s vaginas have this great built-in lubrication feature. Unfortunately, your husband’s anus has no such features, so you’ll need a lot of lube to compensate.

6. Get in the mood for fun

If any of you are nervous about plunging into the unknown, a drink or two before a few pegs never hurt anyone. This is supposed to be fun, so relax a little!

If you’re both new to pegging, it can be a little scary. Setting the mood for a good time can help both of you relax. Just limit yourself to one or two drinks, as alcohol can make trying anything new dangerous.

7. Heat the area

Just don’t go straight off with your strap-on on. You have to loosen up the area a bit. You like to warm up your lady parts before penetration, right?

8. Get some rest

Or a lot of things. Strap-on sex depends a lot on comfort. If your man is picky… well, he’ll be very picky. This won’t work.

Find a way for both of you to relax and unwind together. Maybe give her a hot oil massage—and end with a happy ending.

9. Slow and steady

Take your time with it. There is no need to rush it and go as fast as you can. Gradually getting comfortable with it allows you to communicate and know what the other person wants.

Remember, just as you want your husband to be gentle with you during anal sex, you should want the same for him. And keep in mind you’re wearing a synthetic dick, so you better be…