solo masturbation? Been there, done that, now it’s boring. But mutual masturbation? This could be the key to improving your relationship. This way.
Anyone who has had sex knows what’s going on. Making out, taking off clothes, touching each other and then bam! Slide that guy in immediately. This is not rocket science. However, sometimes old routines may be worth a little yawn. That’s when things can heat up again with mutual masturbation.
What is mutual masturbation?
We know, we know, mutual masturbation sounds pretty simple. However, there are some misconceptions about this sexual activity.
So, we will clarify a few things about what mutual masturbation is and what it is not, so that you proceed with the right thoughts in mind.
Simply put, the definition of mutual masturbation is the act of masturbating with your partner.
What this means depends entirely on you and your partner’s preferences. This could mean that you are sitting across from each other and looking at each other while enjoying yourself. This might mean taking turns so that both of you rotate from watching the other masturbate to being watched while masturbating.
Benefits of mutual masturbation in relationships
You might think that when you get into a relationship, your masturbation days are over. But giving yourself a good ol’ tug isn’t something only single people do.
In fact, there are actually many benefits that mutual masturbation can bring to your relationship!
Let us learn about some of these benefits.
1. It allows you to teach and learn about each other’s sexual preferences
When you first start having sex with someone, giving them pleasure is all guesswork. Try things you’ve done with other partners *and maybe borrow some ideas from the internet* and guess based on their body language whether they liked it or not.
After a while, you’re pretty sure you know everything they like, but fleeting doubts may still make you question whether you really know what you’re doing.
But, when you see your partner having fun, you basically have a front row seat to take lessons on their pleasure. You can learn how they touch themselves to find out what really turns them on. And vice versa, you get a chance to show them what you really like.
2. Enjoyment is guaranteed
It doesn’t matter how good your partner is in the bedroom, we all have our off days. Sometimes, the room is too dark, they can’t see properly what they’re doing, and they’ve been rubbing the wrong spot for so long that you now feel awkward telling them that this whole time The foot is there.
But that will never really happen when you’re pleasuring yourself! If nothing else, at least use this as an opportunity to let go of your joy 100% of the time.
3. You can introduce a little kink
If you and your partner want to mix up your sex life a bit, incorporating some voyeur-exhibitionism might be the way to do it.
Voyeurism is the enjoyment of looking at someone in a sensual manner, while exhibitionism is the enjoyment of being watched in a sexual manner.
To bring this mischievous excitement into your relationship, you don’t have to do anything extreme or public.
4. This is an opportunity to use sex toys
Some people may feel threatened by the use of sex toys in a relationship. For some people, it’s a sign that they’re not good enough and that their partner needs some extra stimulation. But listen to us—sex toys are your friend, not your enemy!
No one has ever left their partner for a silicone toy. If anything, they’ll love you even more for taking you to new sexual heights they didn’t even know they could achieve.
So, if you want to bring in toys but you don’t know how to do it, or you think they might take it the wrong way, suggest using it in a mutual masturbation scenario.
If you tell them they can’t touch you anyway, why should they feel threatened by the toy? Seeing what it can do for you might change their mind.
5. It can act as a building block
Remember how we said mutual masturbation can be whatever you want? Well, we didn’t mean it lightly.
You can use mutual masturbation to try anything you want in the bedroom. Role-playing, threesomes, group sex – whatever you want to try, mutual masturbation can be the perfect way to slowly ease yourself into new experiences.
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We’ve learned about all the benefits that mutual masturbation can bring you, but maybe you’re still not convinced. You may already have an idea of what mutual masturbation is that is bothering you.
There are many myths and misconceptions about this sexual act. Here are some things that are simply not true:
1. Mutual masturbation is for virgins
There’s a misconception going around that mutual masturbation is somehow the way for timid, inexperienced virgins to begin exploring sex.
In fact, even the most sexually experienced can be satisfied just watching and performing once. What we mean is that it can enrich the sex life of anyone at any level. So no, it’s not ‘weird’ for someone who isn’t in high school to participate in mutual masturbation.
2. Mutual masturbation is for same-sex couples
We’ve said it before but we’ll say it again: mutual masturbation is for everyone. Just because straight couples have the option of penetration doesn’t mean it’s the only sexual act that matters in any way.
Seriously, why have we got it into our heads that admission is everything? Mutual masturbation can benefit all types of couples, regardless of sexual identity and orientation.
3. Masturbation is unhealthy
Perhaps the oldest, oldest, and most untrue myth is that masturbation is somehow unhealthy for you. Masturbation can actually be quite healthy for you.
But in the past, it was believed to cause blindness, poor sexual function, mental health problems, hairy palms *yes, really!*, and sexual perversion.
Needless to say, none of this is true whether you masturbate with a partner or alone.
How to do mutual masturbation
So, now that you know what mutual masturbation is *and what it isn’t* you’re probably curious about how you can actually incorporate it into your sex life.
Don’t worry, we’ve got 411 ways to use mutual masturbation to have the best night of your life!
1. Know that it will be awkward in the beginning
There will be a moment in the beginning when you will be uncomfortable. Masturbation is usually done in privacy without any spectators, so some initial voyeur-exhibition jitters are completely normal.
But after a few seconds, you and your partner are going to get into the mood, and then whatever uncomfortable feeling you had will instantly disappear. When we say quickly, we mean quickly. Trust us.
2. Talk to your partner about this first
If you want to incorporate mutual masturbation into your sexual performance, you should talk to your partner about it first. Tell them why you want to try it, what you’re hoping to gain from the experience, and listen when they tell you how they feel.
Your partner may agree with this idea. Or maybe they feel too awkward even with you to watch them when they masturbate. Whatever the case, it’s always a good idea to talk about anything new you want to bring into the bedroom.
You want to make sure the sex is sexy, not uncomfortable for anyone.
3. Set the scene
If this is your first time and you’re not totally comfortable with someone staring at you while you masturbate, well, no one said you have to do it in a business environment.
4. It’s all in the eyes
Okay, so mutual masturbation can start off a little awkward for the first time. It may start with awkward emotions and lots of laughter.
But, once the intimacy and connection is established, it will be worth it. One way to go from laughing to groaning is to make eye contact.
5. Pay attention to touch
This is your chance to really give yourself permission to explore your own and your partner’s body. You don’t have to start directly from your crotch area.
6. Teasing
You don’t want to start by just sitting across from each other. You need to set the mood and get the juices flowing *excuse the pun*. So, put on a show.
Demonstrate taking off your clothes, and slowly move your hands over your body and major erogenous zones.
7. Change position
You don’t have to be an eagle in front of them the whole time. You can change positions wherever your imagination takes you!
This is an opportunity for you to really experiment and explore each other, so changing positions is a great way to facilitate this.
Some positions to try include:
One. side to side – When lying or sitting together, you and your partner focus on pleasuring either each other or yourself. If you’re feeling awkward touching yourself under your partner’s intense gaze, this is a great position to start in.
B. almost missionary – If you’re feeling nervous about trying it for the first time, why not start with a position you and your partner are already familiar with? When one person lies on their back, the other lies on top of them and you both enjoy to your heart’s desire.
C. in your face – Who said you have to be afraid to try new things? If you’re eager and excited to start mutually masturbating with your partner, sit across from each other with your legs spread so you both get a front row seat to the main event.
8. Take turns
Like we said, there are no hard, fast rules when it comes to mutual masturbation. If you don’t feel like masturbating and watching at the same time, you can take turns doing it.
This can really help you focus your attention on your partner instead of your crotch.
9. Make it attractive
Masturbating together isn’t the beginning and end of your sex relationship. It can be a starting point or a pause between other sexual activities. Suck your or their fingers to let your partner know what’s going to happen next.
10. Don’t forget the bomb
As much as people like to think that the anus is a taboo area, it’s not. People love anal. People love to touch and be touched by it. It’s time we all got over this.
So, while masturbating, if you are a fan of anal, do not forget to pleasure your anus in front of your partner. They will love seeing you having maximum fun!
11. Stay connected
Part of the joy of sex is the intimacy between two loving partners. It’s the only time two people become physically one, and it’s beautiful.
So, to maintain that connection and intimacy, even when you’re focused on pleasuring yourself, make sure there’s some level of contact.
If you’re lying side by side, make sure your shoulders are touching or your arms are intertwined. Even if you’re sitting across from each other, draping your legs over each other is a great way to maintain that physical connection.
12. Sing your praises
One way to make mutual masturbation even hotter is to talk some dirty. You don’t want to sit across from each other in complete silence—make awkward things happen!
Moaning, moaning and saying naughty things to your partner will make your job even better.
If you’re confused about what to say, talk about:
One. how good it feels – Even saying something like, “That feels great” can add sexy…
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