What is it and 23 secrets that trigger its power to turn your man up

Learn why you should harness your husband’s hero instincts and use it to make your relationship better than ever.

Do all men have hero instincts? And if so, how can you bring it out?

Well, imagine that you are walking down your neighborhood street and there is a commotion. People are gathered around, taking out their phones and capturing the moment.

You expect to see something dramatic, but instead, you get a guy, let’s call him Joe, trying to “save” a cat. Only, the cat isn’t stuck very high up in a tree, he’s just two feet off the ground, resting on the lowest branch, probably wondering, “Human, am I right?”

Who, with all his strength and bravery, “saves” the cat, and returns him to his extremely grateful owner. The crowd scatters, some laughing, some rolling their eyes, but the one who walks away with his chest puffed out feels like he’s just climbed Mount Everest.

This introduces us to the fascinating concept of the hero instinct.

It’s not necessarily about grand gestures or daring rescues. Sometimes, it’s as simple as grabbing that jar from the top shelf or giving good advice on what Netflix series to watch next time to feel valued.

Now, for all the fierce, independent women out there *cue powerful Beyoncé track in the background*, recognizing this hero instinct in your man and sometimes harnessing it doesn’t mean surrendering your power or autonomy. Have been.

The Science Behind Hero Instinct

The concept of the hero instinct didn’t just emerge from a romantic fairy tale or Hollywood script. This is rooted in both modern observations and ancient evolutionary drivers.

Enter James Bauer, a renowned relationship coach and author. Bauer peels back the layers of the complex male psyche and sheds light on a man’s deep desire to feel indispensable and valued in a relationship.

This doesn’t mean every guy wants to be the next Superman or Thor *although let’s admit, wielding a hammer that only you can lift sounds fun*.

It’s about feeling like they have a meaningful place in the grand scheme of their relationships and life.

It was not just about physical strength but also about securing resources and ensuring the safety and well-being of their family or tribe.

Fast forward to today, and while we’re no longer fending off wild animals *unless you count that spider in the bathtub*, the essence of that role is still there.

Now, if we sift through the sands of psychological theories, we will stumble upon Maslow’s hierarchy of needs.

This famous pyramid highlights the progression of human needs, from the most basic, such as food and safety, to the more abstract, such as self-esteem and self-actualization.

Our hero instinct fits perfectly into this, emphasizing the desire for respect, admiration, and a sense of purpose.

How To Guide: Triggering the Hero Instinct

No, you don’t need any magic wand or mysterious potion. Harnessing the hero instinct is all about understanding and action.

Here’s how to do it.

1. Making him feel appreciated for the work he does

We all yearn for acceptance. By appreciating small gestures, you are signaling to her that her efforts are not going unnoticed.

2. Let him know that you trust and rely on him

Trust is a cornerstone in relationships. By showing him that you trust him, you are allowing the hero instinct to flourish.

It’s not about playing the damsel in distress, but about giving him moments where he feels like he can step up and be there for you.

3. Asking for his advice or expertise

Of course, you can ask Siri, Alexa or Google. But sometimes, asking him can make a big difference. This subtly conveys that you respect his decision, which encourages his hero instincts.

4. Giving him the opportunity to be protective and supportive

This aligns directly with the hero instinct, encouraging a dynamic where both partners feel loved and valued.

5. Show appreciation for his passion and ambitions

Every hero has a dream, a mountain they want to conquer. By praising his aspirations, you are not only supporting his success, but you are also letting him know that he has your full support in his hero’s journey.

6. Engaging in shared challenges

7. Give importance to their opinion in decision making

While it’s important to speak up and stand up for your choices, sometimes seeking her opinion or making collaborative decisions can make her feel indispensable, which is in line with her hero tendencies.

8. Encourage his leadership skills

Whether it’s planning a weekend getaway or deciding on a new show, sometimes letting him take the lead can work wonders. This gesture subtly reinforces his role, allowing the hero’s instincts to come out naturally.

9. Verbal affirmation to puff up her *already* puffy chest

Verbal affirmations are like little magic spells that can make his chest swell with pride *and possibly make him strut around like a barnyard rooster*.

Regularly affirming his worth, in private moments and even in front of others, can directly boost his hero instincts. and who knows? Maybe he’ll start wearing a cape just for fun!

Why would you want to inspire his hero instincts?

Besides having a partner who sometimes feels like there’s a superhero cape waving invisibly behind him, there are real reasons to take advantage of this primal drive.

1. Strengthening emotional ties

Engaging the hero instinct means you’re not just observing your partner, but you’re really seeing him/her – recognizing his/her deepest needs and desires. This creates a bond of understanding and mutual respect.

2. Increase commitment and relationship satisfaction

When a man feels like he plays an indispensable role in your life, he is more likely to commit. The hero instinct, when triggered, can create a sense of purpose within the relationship, leading to greater satisfaction for both partners.

3. Making things spicy!

Look, life and relationships can sometimes fall into predictable patterns.

By tapping into the hero instinct, you’re introducing a playful, exciting dynamic. It is not about maidens and knights but about recognizing and valuing each other’s roles.

4. Treat the princess

It’s like your own personal knight, without the shining armour, who is ready to make sure you are treated with love and care.

5. Promote mutual appreciation

While the hero instinct focuses on the need to feel essential, triggering it also means you are fostering an environment of admiration.

6. Forming a supportive partnership

When he feels like a hero, he is often more motivated to be helpful and helpful. Whether it’s being your sounding board, helping with challenges, or just being a pillar of strength, activating hero instincts ensures a more harmonious and supportive partnership.

7. Building a secure foundation

A relationship where both partners feel valued and understood forms a solid foundation.

What to do and what not to do

Well, before you put on your director hat and start the grand drama of hero instinct, pause for a moment. It’s important to tread wisely because, like all powerful things, there is a right way and a wrong way to go about it.

1. Do: Make sure it’s real

The hero instinct, no matter how powerful, is like a well-functioning machine. This can lead to disloyalty. Make sure your appreciation and gestures come from a place of truth.

2. Don’t: Overdo it to the point where it feels like a performance

While recognizing his hero instincts is beneficial, turning every moment into a staged superhero scene can become tiresome and inauthentic. This can make both of you feel disconnected from the real essence of the relationship.

3. Do: Maintain balance

While it’s great to make him feel like a hero, it’s equally important to keep his independence intact.

4. Don’t: Let it develop into an unhealthy dependency

While hero tendencies can foster closeness, there is a fine line between healthy interdependence and complete dependency. Be alert. If you feel that you are too dependent on him for every decision or emotional need, it may be time to re-evaluate.

5. Do: Use it as a tool for connection, not manipulation

The purpose is to strengthen the bond and understand each other better, not to get your way or manipulate the outcome. Hero instincts should be a means of enriching the relationship, not exploiting it.

6. Don’t: Neglect other aspects of the relationship

It also includes other needs, desires and dynamics. Make sure you’re focusing on the entire relationship, not just this one aspect.

7. Do: Remember that every person is different

What really makes a man feel like a hero is the person supporting him

It’s not about grand gestures, legendary discoveries or saving the world from imminent destruction. In the modern age, heroes are created in small moments: a heartfelt thank you, a shared laugh, or the simple act of understanding.

Remember that the hero trend doesn’t mean creating superheroes. It’s about recognizing someone’s inherent desire to be the best for you and for them.