30 Silly, Accidental Ways You’re Pushing Him Away and the Secrets to Keeping Him Close

Has she been acting distant lately? If she is, it may be because you are pushing her away without realizing it. Here are all the signs you need to know.

If your girl is acting strange, it may be because of the ways in which you are pushing her away. You may not even know what you’re doing, and he may not even tell you.

You see, you can never tell what a woman is thinking. A woman’s mind is so mysterious and fickle that countless songs and sonnets have been written about it. One moment, she’s sweet and thoughtful, the next, she’s quiet and distant.

Until dinner, she seems playful and everything she does turns you on, but when you walk up to her door, the door slams shut and you fall to the ground in shock, without any Goodnight kiss or warning.

Was this something you did? Does your breath also smell like garlic? Did you say something wrong? What was it this time?

Psychology behind attracting someone

When it comes to attracting someone, it’s not just about those butterflies or sparks. It’s really a lot about how we connect and interact. Think about a time when you felt really attracted to someone.

Often, it’s because they’re so easy to be around, right? They listen, they get your jokes, and they actually pay attention to what you’re saying.

Now let’s talk about being real. Do you know how you can tell if someone is themselves? It’s like a breath of fresh air. It makes you want to be around them more.

But if someone is faking it or trying too hard, that’s a big turnoff. It’s as if they’re pushing you away without saying anything.

It’s like a sign that they’re not that attracted to you, or at least, it feels that way. Being candid, open and actually interacting like real people – that’s what draws people to you.

Limits are another big thing. It feels good when someone understands your space needs, your hobbies and the way you work. This shows respect.

Have you ever been around someone who is always sad or complaining? It’s hard to stick around. A little positivity goes a long way in making someone feel good about being with you.

Ultimately, it’s all about give and take. Relationships are not one-sided. If you’re not making an effort or growing together, it starts to seem one-sided. That imbalance can make someone feel neglected, like they are being pushed away.

The stupid way you’re pushing her away

To get you out of your misery, check out this list of 20 ways you may be doing it without even realizing it.

1. You are very nice

Women like nice guys, but not ones who are too nice. They love it when you appreciate them, make them feel comfortable, and give them your full attention. You should definitely laugh at their jokes and offer to drive them around town when they have some errands.

However, to be Very Well sends the wrong message. She may feel like you’re not being honest or that you’re just being nice because you only have one thing on your mind: getting into her pants.

2. You have low self-esteem

If you are confident, it will definitely spread towards other people. People around you will easily get attracted towards you. On the other hand, if you are not confident, this may also reflect and people will feel uncomfortable in your presence.

3. You are self-centered

So, your self-esteem is not low. In fact, you are so full of yourself that you may even go out with yourself.

4. You’re moaning about everything

There’s no one who can turn a party into a mess faster—and it might be you, if you do nothing but whine and whine and whine. Imagine you’re out with your girl and she’s complaining that your soup doesn’t have the right consistency.

She may be fine with this. But then when the salad arrives, you complain that it’s too soggy. He might as well let this pass.

Nobody wants to hear how the whole world is against you.

5. You are rude

As the saying goes, if you don’t treat the waiter well, you are not a good person. This means that you should be nice and show courtesy not only towards the people you are with, but also towards the people who are working with you and waiting for you.

If you start nagging the chef for serving an overcooked steak, like you did to the valet and the receptionist, it will not only embarrass your date, but it will also make him wonder if you’re into his. How will we behave together in future?

6. You don’t know how and when to listen

Again, women can be very confusing when they don’t speak their mind. But when they talk, you must listen…and listen closely,

Otherwise, they may get up, walk away, and look for someone who will listen to them.

7. You are a cheap person

They work for what they have, and although they don’t expect you to be their sugar daddy, you still shouldn’t make them pay for their dinners.

Women can judge men based on how willing they are to take out their wallet. So, don’t go Dutch when you’re at the beginning of your relationship.

8. You focus too much on sex

If you’re going out with a girl and you do everything possible to treat her like a princess, only to expect her to walk out right away, you’re in for disappointment.

Paying too much attention to sex in your dating life or in your serious relationship only shows your immaturity. Women will think that you have no interest in them and are instead only interested in having sex – which can definitely be true.

9. You’re checking out other women

However, checking out other women when you’re going on a date with your girl is a big turnoff, let alone a reason for a big fight.

Looking at or staring at other women can either make her lose her temper or her self-esteem. Either way, it’s a big no-no, because the last thing she needs is to be with a potential benefactor.

10. You’re talking about your exes

Women do not want to go out with anyone carrying extra luggage. Plus, all your thinking out loud about how your ex cooked you a delicious turkey for Thanksgiving won’t make her cook an even better turkey for you.

Instead, she may break up with you right there.

11. You don’t make him a priority

If you are serious about a girl then you should give her priority. So, if you don’t have time for a serious relationship, don’t start one.

If you cannot give enough time to your girl, it will become a problem and she will start pulling away. Who wants to be with someone who feels like a ghost in the relationship? No one

12. You really don’t know much about women

After all, they don’t expect you to be a mind reader, you just need to put in a little more effort so you don’t get caught unawares.

13. You communicate inconsistently

Inconsistent or unpredictable communication can be confusing and frustrating. When you don’t stick to your guns or fail to follow through on plans, it signals unreliability.

14. You avoid being insecure

Avoiding emotional vulnerability hinders deep connection. If you always keep things on a surface level, she may feel like you’re not really invested in the relationship.

Psychology tells us that vulnerability is the key to building trust and intimacy. By not opening up, you are inadvertently pushing him away by denying him access to your true self.

15. You lack emotional support

When she is going through a tough time and you are not there to listen or console her, it can be very sad.

Emotional support is the cornerstone of a strong relationship. This lack of support is one of the ways you are pushing her away, making her feel alone in her struggles.

16. You fail to recognize and celebrate his achievements

Ignoring his accomplishments or downplaying his successes can make him feel unappreciated. This lack of recognition is a subtle but effective way that you are pushing him away.

17. You encroach on his personal space and freedom

Clinging too tightly or encroaching on his personal space can be suffocating. Everyone needs a healthy amount of freedom and privacy, even in a relationship.

18. You don’t take interest in his interests

When you don’t show any interest in his hobbies or passions, it can be frustrating. An important part of any relationship is showing curiosity and support for what the other person likes.

By neglecting to connect with her interests, you are pushing her away and making her feel like her passions are unimportant to you.

19. You always need to be right

Relationships thrive on mutual respect and understanding, not on winning arguments. Getting it right is a way you are pushing him away by undermining the value of his perspective.

20. You neglect self-care and personal growth

If you’re not taking care of yourself, whether it’s your health, appearance or personal development, it can be detrimental to you.

Neglecting this aspect of your life may be a subtle way that you are pushing him away, as it suggests a lack of effort and self-appreciation.

Keeping her close: Really simple but effective ways

Sometimes, it’s the little things we do *or don’t* make a big difference in our relationships. Here are some easy-to-follow tips that can help you avoid common pitfalls that can push him away.

1. Be skillful in emotions

Think of emotional intelligence as being fluent in the language of emotions. It’s about knowing what you’re feeling and why, and how to express those feelings in a healthy way.

For example, if you are upset, instead of remaining silent or getting angry, you can say what is bothering you. It’s this kind of emotional clarity and honesty that keeps misunderstandings at bay and keeps you from inadvertently alienating her.

2. Talk and listen like a professional

Then, when it’s your turn, be clear and kind in your words. This two-way street of talking and listening helps build a deeper connection and keeps you from pushing her away with communication mishaps.

3. Build trust, not walls

Trust means being trustworthy and open. Keep your promises, be there when you say you are, and share your thoughts and feelings.

4. Respect her space

Everyone needs their own space, even in a relationship. Encourage her hobbies and interests, and also make sure you set aside some time to do your own thing.

This shows that you respect her as her own person, and it’s key to not push her away by being too clingy or suffocating.

5. Grow together

These shared experiences and conversations about your hopes and dreams will bring you closer. It’s about growing together, not growing apart, and that’s a big part of not pushing him away.

6. Laugh together

Laughter really can be the best medicine in a relationship. Sharing jokes, watching a funny movie, or simply being silly together can create a stronger bond.

7. Show appreciation regularly

Small expressions of gratitude go a long way. Thank him for the little things he does, compliment him, or let him know you’re thinking about him.

It’s about acknowledging his value in your life. This type of appreciation can make her feel loved and secure, which is important in not pushing her away through neglect or taking her for granted.

8. Plan the future together

It doesn’t have to be heavy or overwhelming; This could be as simple as planning a trip or discussing future dreams.

These conversations demonstrate commitment and shared aspirations, helping to prevent feelings that you are driving him away by being non-committal or disinterested in the future.

9. Be his cheerleader

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